I Tried to Be a Facebook Mom Influencer — and What It Did to My Mental Health

I thought becoming a Facebook mom influencer would empower me. Instead, it overwhelmed me.

I started as a side hustle—something flexible I could do while being present for my kids. But very quickly, it became emotionally heavy. No matter what you post, someone is judging. Some people are searching for the perfect mom: always calm, always patient, always put together. And most days? I was just trying to make it to bedtime.

Being visible as a mom on social media can quietly affect your mental health if you’re not careful. Likes start to feel like validation. Silence feels like rejection. And judgment—spoken or unspoken—sticks longer than it should.

Here are the things that actually helped me protect my mental health while showing up online as a mom.

Things Moms Can Do on Social Media to Protect Their Mental Health

1. Engage only with comments that are fair and polite

You do not owe access to everyone. If a comment is respectful, kind, or genuinely curious—engage. If it’s passive‑aggressive, judgmental, or draining—you’re allowed to ignore it.

If a comment makes your chest tighten, close the app. Silence is not weakness. It’s boundaries.

2. Don’t explain yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you

Some people don’t want clarity—they want control or validation. Explaining yourself over and over will only exhaust you, it also impacts your mental health and disturb your life.

You are allowed to scroll past, delete, mute, or block without guilt.

3. Remember: not every comment is about you

Some people comment from stress, jealousy, loneliness, or a bad day. That doesn’t make it okay—but it means you don’t need to carry it.

Not everything deserves your emotional energy.

4. Stop chasing the “perfect mom” image

Social media rewards perfection, but motherhood isn’t perfect. Trying to perform motherhood instead of living it leads to burnout.

Your value does not come from:

• how calm you look

• how clean your house is

• how aesthetic your meals are

• how much engagement you get

Real moms don’t need perfection. They need honesty.

5. Detach your self‑worth from likes and engagement

Views, likes, and comments are algorithm behavior, not human judgment. Low engagement does not mean you’re boring, failing, or invisible.

It usually just means the system didn’t push your content that day.

6. Be kind to yourself the way you are kind to other moms

You would never talk to another mom the way you talk to yourself on hard days. Extend that same compassion inward. Start from inside, just follow your heart and your beliefs.

Rest is productive. Logging off is allowed. Changing direction is okay. If what you do makes your life miserable, take a break, and come back again.

7. Create for expression, not approval

The moment content becomes a performance instead of an outlet, your mental health pays the price.

Ask yourself:

• Does this feel honest?

• Does this feel like me?

• Would I still post this if no one reacted?

If the answer is yes, you’re on the right path.

Final Thought

Being a mom on social media is hard. You’re judged no matter what you do. So the goal isn’t to be liked by everyone—it’s to protect your peace while showing up as yourself.

You are not too sensitive. You are not weak. You are human.

And that is enough.

Good luck Mamas.